Have you ever felt like you are an actor in a play, you did not voluntarily sign up for? Well, our Heavenly Father doesn’t want or need any pretense. He desires us to first and foremost have a transformed relationship with Him that gives us the freedom to truly be who we are meant to be in Him. This also will grant us the opportunity to have transformed relationships with others. If you still feel like there are still times, your trying to fake it till you make it, I have some good news for you. Your Daddy in heaven wants you to know it’s time to truly be transformed in Him and genuine. There are too many counterfeits already, in Christ we need to be and live transformed.
In today’s lesson from Romans 12:9-21 Passion Bible, you will learn about how to have transformed relationships.
1. Love and be genuine.
“Let the inner movement of your heart always be to love one another, and never play the role of an actor wearing a mask. Despise evil and embrace everything that is good and virtuous” (Verse 9).
If the inner movement of your heart is that of love for others, you can’t go wrong. Sometimes we can find ourselves doing good or even great things, but with the wrong motives. In are walk with the Lord, He doesn’t want us playing the role of a masquerader. It’s imperative that we as Christians be the picture of love and be genuine because what kind of example will we be if we fail to do so. Also, we see that this scripture tells us we need to “despise evil and embrace everything that is good and virtuous.” If we follow this wonderful advice, it can keep us from representing an example in opposition with who and what we are suppose to represent.
2. Be devoted and tenderly loving.
“Be devoted to tenderly loving your fellow believers as members of one family. Try to outdo yourselves in respect and honor of one another” (Verse 10).
I’m sure we all have found it hard to be devoted and tenderly loving towards some fellow believers. It’s always easy to be devoted and loving, when there’s no opposition, however, it’s in those moments when it’s the most challenging that prove to be the most telling about our love challenge. Bob Goff the founder of the Love Does nonprofit organization wrote a book called “Everybody Always” about becoming love in a world full of setbacks and difficult people.
Bob says, “People will figure out what we really believe by seeing what we actually do. Everybody has a plan, but God is looking for people who know their purpose…He said he would turn us into love if we were willing to leave behind who we use to be.” Are you willing to leave behind who you use to be to “love” in action for “Everybody Always.”
1 John 4:7-8 has this to say about love, “Those who are loved by God, let his love continually pour from you to one another, because God is love. Everyone who loves is gathered by God and experiences an intimate knowledge of him. The one who doesn’t love has yet to know God, for God is love.” How are you really doing with loving others? Do you know God based upon this scripture passage? These verses tell us not only
that God continually exists as being the picture of love (being love). I can’t speak for you, however, I know I especially need God’s help in being tenderly loving with difficult people to love. Aren’t you glad that our Daddy in heaven is willing to help us to be like him in all situations?
God extravagantly loves His children. This same love needs to be a way of life for us in are being devoted and tenderly loving one another. God desires to bring his love in us to its full measures. He’s challenging us to daily love even more.
3. Be enthusiastic.
“Be enthusiastic to serve the Lord, keeping your passion toward him boiling hot! Radiate with the glow of the Holy Spirit and let him fill you with excitement as you serve him” (Verse 11).
Enthusiasm and passion for the Lord can take you along way. We are to not just serve the Lord, but strive to keep our passion towards Him boiling hot. This can occur if we let the glow of the Holy Spirit radiate and allow him to fill us with excitement.
4. Let hope burst forth and don’t give up.
“Let this Hope burst forth within you, releasing a continual joy. Don’t give up in a time of trouble, but commune with God at all times (Verse 12).
We are urged to bear afflictions bravely. How are you bearing up with this instruction? Don’t give up! Remember, don’t go weary in well doing. Remain in communion with a God at all times and He will continue to sustain and keep you. He’ll never lead you were he won’t keep or provide for you.
5. Take interest, help, and welcome people.
“Take a constant interest in the needs of God’s beloved people and respond by helping them. And eagerly welcome people as guests into your home” (Verse 13).
Each and everyday we encounter people from various walks of life that need help in some kind of way. While some may sense they are in need of help. There are others who are either in denial or lack this knowledge. It’s up to each and every believer like this verse says, “to take a constant interest in the needs of God’s beloved people and respond by helping them. It’s time to take interest, help, and welcome people like never before. We can’t afford to be in our own personal bubble. God wants us to help our fellow man. Here we are encouraged to “eagerly welcome people as guest into our homes. When it comes to the area of hospitality, I need God’s help. How about you? When was the last time you personally invited people as guest to your home? I don’t mean, if you’re married your wife invited them. Or if you have a roommate like in my situation, they invited. Or if your single, when was the last time If ever, you issued an invitation to your house. We are truly blessed that we know and have experienced our Daddy in heaven’s open invitation. It’s time we open are doors wider to the guest we need to invite. If you’re not sure about those you can invite, pray about it. I don’t doubt that many of us know of some people who may not come to church but they will come for fellowship. It may be a colleague, relative, or neighbor you feel led to invite. Go ahead, issue your invitation!
6. Speak blessing.
“Speak blessing, not cursing, over those who reject and persecute you” (Verse 14).
We need to be careful to speak blessing over those who reject and persecute us. I believe it’s important they we speak the right thing to not just people but our situations. What we say to individuals that have rejected or persecuted us or in terms of our various situations has the potential to improve things or make them worst.
Bob says, “People who are becoming love celebrate how far the people around them come. There constantly asking the question, “Where do you want to go?” Then they help the people around them get there. Go do that with the people you love, including your enemies. Don’t talk to them about their failures and the dark places they’ve been. Talk to them about who they’re becoming and the bright hope that is their future. Speak truthful and wise words over them.” I encourage us all to speak words of blessing over all, including your enemies.
7. Celebrate and weep.
“Celebrate with those celebrate, and weep with those who grieve” (Verse 15).
Let’s truly celebrate with those we know that are celebrating. Let’s rise above being jealous of others in and out of the kingdom of God. When others weep, we need to weep with them.
8. Live happily, in harmony, and be mindful.
“Live happily together in a spirit of harmony, and be as mindful of another’s worth as you are your own. Don’t live with a lofty mind-set, thinking you are too important to serve others, but willing to do menial tasks and identify with those who are humble-minded.” Don’t be smug or even think for a moment that you know it all” (Verse 16).
We need to have a servant heart and mind-set, otherwise, pride will eventually be are downfall. Let’s be about living happily, in harmony and bring mindful of others. If we live in this way, we will never think too much of ourselves. Then we will not have to worry about being lofty minded and thinking we are too important to humbly do what is required of us. Are you willing to humble you self? Or are you one to make everything about you? This verse is basically saying, “Be willing to do menial tasks which are associated lowly, or “Adjust yourselves to humble situations.” In other words, are you willing to do things that don’t draw attention to you.
Many want the title, position, prestige, power, whether to stand behind the pulpit, but they don’t realize the price paid (sacrifice) to stand behind it. However, are you willing to do the menial tasks like washing toilets, cleaning the church, the jobs that oftentimes don’t bring spotlight attention, are dirty, not coveted. Can you humbly do it? Or do you perform those type of tasks with the wrong motive?
9. Live to benefit others
Never hold a grudge or try to get even, live to benefit others.
“Never hold a grudge or try to get even, but plan your life around the noblest way to benefit others. Do your best to live as everybody’s friend. (Or “to live at peace with all people. Beloved, don’t be obsessed with taking revenge, but leave that to God’s righteous justice” (Or “wrath). For the Scriptures says: “if you don’t take justice in your own hands, I will release justice for you” (Verses 17-19)
Have you ever done a self-inventory of the type of person you are? If so, have you found yourself to be more of a self-serving/self-gratifying or self-less/people-serving type of person?
I know naturally or humanly speaking we all find ourselves in the first category. However, in Christ we are to live to benefit others. What we are urged to do here is not an easy thing, living a self-less life, one that doesn’t hold grudges, try to get even, life of peace with everyone. I don’t know about you, but when I think of the most challenging individuals I’ve meet this is no small order. Even with people you get along with, living to benefit other is not an easy thing. Nonetheless, don’t let this stop you from living to benefit others.
10. Feed you enemy (and quench their thirst).
“And: If your enemy is hungry, buy him lunch! Win him over with kindness. (Or “If He thirsts, Give Him a drink.”) For your surprising generously will awaken his conscience, and God will reward you with favor. Never let evil defeat you, but defeat evil with good” (Verse 21).(Verses 20-21).
When was the last time, if ever, you feed your enemy or gave them something to drink? These verses really challenge us to do the opposite of what are natural tendency dictates when we’re confronted with a so called “enemy.” Do your actions towards your enemies reap coals of fire over their head? In other words, you and I are suppose to demonstrate acts of kindness that cause our enemies hearts to be moved and their shame to be exposed. Help me! Help us, Jesus! We must at all cost, fight to defeat evil with good. If we as Christians fall into the trap of the enemy to repay evil with evil, we miss out on the perfect opportunity for God to awaken are enemies conscience. We are told the reward of this surprising generosity is God’s favor. We can’t afford to be conquered by the evil one. We must conquer evil through our union with the good One.
Bob Goff’ book, “Everybody Always,” has this to say about loving difficult people, even our enemies, “People who are becoming love
don’t just hear tough talk; they do difficult things…Here’s the thing: loving people the way Jesus did either changes everything in us or it changes nothing. It can’t just change a couple of things at a time. If you want to become love, what will it change for you? I’m moving beyond just agreeing with Jesus to actually doing what He said to do. I don’t think we have any business telling people what to change in their lives unless we’re willing to change a couple of things in ours. For me, this means taking a step back from my pride, washing feet, and treating my enemies with the kind of selfless love Jesus didn’t just talk about but demonstrated.
The central key to having Transformed Relationships is remembering two titles of Bob Goff’s books, “Love Does” and “Everybody Always.” Are you ready to be love more like Jesus? Well, whether you are it not He’s ready for you and I to step up our love and experience transformed relationships. Right now, ask God to show you what does this picture of love look like in my life, with those in my sphere of influence. I challenge you and I both to get outside of our usual love demonstration.